Psychologist Laura Lezaeta said on April 10 that there is an urgent need to rethink how adults are supporting adolescents, given the current context of violence, bullying, suicides, and emotional distress among young people.
Lezaeta explained that adolescence today presents different challenges than in previous generations. She said many adults feel disoriented in the face of these changes. “The information circulates, but not always do we know how to act or how to accompany them,” she said.
According to Lezaeta, today’s adolescents grow up in a digital environment that directly impacts their development. “Constant exposure to social networks influences how they perceive themselves, their self-esteem and the way they manage their emotions,” she said. She warned that young people are exposed to symbolic violence, aggressive comments and constant comparisons online which can affect their emotional well-being. “They close the door of their room and enter a universe that impacts all aspects of their life,” Lezaeta said.
She also addressed common misconceptions about adolescence: “Moving away from seeing this stage as just rebellion is fundamental. It’s not about ‘not listening’ or ‘doing whatever they want,’ but understanding what is happening to them and how we are supporting them.” Lezaeta added it is a mistake to think teenagers no longer need adults: “They need them, but in another way,” she said.
Lezaeta emphasized the key role adults play as emotional supports and guides: “Being a support means being available so they can bring their doubts, fears and emotions. That they know there is an adult who listens.” She stressed the importance of shifting from an authoritarian model toward one based on presence, listening and guidance: “The adult functions as an external regulator. The adolescent still cannot fully self-regulate; that’s why accompaniment is needed.” Limits should be seen as care rather than punishment: “Limits provide security, order and predictability,” she stated.
Warning against avoiding limits out of fear of damaging relationships with teens or causing conflict, Lezaeta argued: “That is a mistaken belief. Limits do not break bonds; they strengthen them.” The psychologist noted it matters more how rules are communicated—validating emotions while maintaining standards—and advised being attentive to warning signs such as withdrawal or persistent irritability.
In conclusion, Lezaeta summarized her message by saying: “What adolescents most need is to feel seen and heard… They can’t do it alone. Even if they seem grown up, they need adults who accompany them.”
